Over the past 25 years, I’ve helped many patients find their libido again. And the issue usually fell into five categories.
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I need background music for this one. But I’m not going to sing, because you don’t need me to do that. But we’re going to talk about sex.
So, women. There is so much stuff out there on why sex is difficult. Is it painful? Is there an emotional block? Is there a structural block? There’s so much stuff.
So what I always express to women is, number one, if you’ve lost your drive (you’re just sort of like, whatever, it’s just another Tuesday, get it over with) that’s a sign that your adrenals are exhausted, and you are just not healthy in that department. Because sex and the sex drive is a natural component of a healthy individual.
But what happens is we get exhausted so easily with all the things, and the body realizes the worst thing that could happen is us being pregnant on top of this exhaustion. So, it shuts the drive down in the brain. And that’s all that is. It has nothing to do with anything else. But women, we write so many stories in our brain about what we can attach low sex drive to, and honestly, it’s just exhaustion of the adrenals.
Then let’s talk about where that comes from. The number one reason we exhaust our adrenals is that our insulin (your sugar) is too high. We’ve got to address insulin levels. You’ve got to keep your sugars under 40 grams a day. That’s one of the best ways to bring those adrenals back into force.
Then we’ve got to talk about history. Is there any sexual abuse or physical abuse? Women, when that happens, things shut down because we’re so terrified of the memory of it all. And if that’s you, reach out. Because I’ve got certain things that are going to be very helpful for you, to be able to put that in its right place, heal from that trauma, and move on and enjoy a healthy sex life.
Then there are the foods. If we’re eating the wrong types of foods, we’re going to shut down the pituitary. We’re going to shut down the parts of your brain that get excited about sex. And so maybe we need to look at whole30.com and address what is going into this machine because the machine can’t create energy if it’s not being fed.
There are so many different things that we can be doing to revive our sex life. Maybe grab some coconut oil and put it in the room so that there’s a little extra lubrication down there. That’s a fantastic way to kind of giggle and have fun with it. I like to have two jars, one for the kitchen, one for the bedroom. Just saying. Your choice.
I hope you take a moment and really think about how you think about sex. Did your family talk about sex? Did you have a really great conversation about how glorious this can be? Or is it just a duty? Because sometimes what we’re taught can affect what we do in the bedroom as well.
I invite you to dig into this deeper. Reach out if you need help. I’m here for you. Talk to you all soon. Bye-bye.