When my kids were growing up, my life revolved around a schedule. It’s the only way I could manage four kids with activities, a farm, and thriving a business.
The basic foundation of any schedule is putting down your non-negotiables first. Then your requirements, then your joys or hobbies, then see where you can add in new things or people.
When people ask me to help out or volunteer, I always ask myself first, does this bring me joy or happiness? Because for me to say yes to them means I have to say no to someone else- either my family or my hobbies. If it is something I would like to do my next question is always, what they anticipate my time commitment to be. Then I review the schedule and if it doesn’t fit, I simply say, “Look, I’m not going to manage that in the time you need so it’s best for me to say no now.” People usually are very excited because they have a direct answer and can move onto the next thing and get the right person.
The other thing I find that many women do not do, is schedule themselves as a priority. Whether it’s a massage, relaxation, an Epsom salt bath, working out, or simply a 5-minute walk around the block. Put time in your schedule for you. If you go down, everyone goes down. There is an old joke if momma ain’t happy no one is happy- but I take that as Women we manage so much of the emotional stability of the home, everyone mirrors you. Take the time to feed your soul, teach this to your children, when you are rested and joyful, they are too. Never let this be a negative for you.
Then don’t forget to use the minions you created. If they can run your iPhone, they can help load the dishwasher, wipe down counters and pick up. Try just 10 minutes in each room as a family. put on fun oud music dance and clean. make it fun. What I had to let go of was perfect work for consistent help. It might not be perfect, but it’s something off your plate.
Bottom line, take the time to create your schedule, run by it., review it every week. You will find it frees up your mental space and that is worth everything.